Friday, July 20, 2012

Chapter One ~ part one ~ Always ask a Man



I love the illustraions in this book! The first chapter bears the name of the book "Always ask a man".  It is the start of the Arlene Dahl makeover and it also has a lot of quotes as to what the famous male actors of the day treasured in women.

"It's not very difficult to find out what appeals to a man. All you have to do is ask him" Arlene says.

What one man thinks is usually  a pretty good indicator of what most men will think on a given subject. For instance if the cab driver admires your perfume, you can be pretty sure your dinner date will like it too. (apparently all men are the same or at least super similar)

To develop the kind of appeal that will  attract and intrigue a man:
  1. Look at yourself objectively (try to see yourself through a man's eyes)
  2. Listen to men (and learn what they like in women)

Step one is important because only then can you know what kind of impression you are making on men.  This is not easy so enlist the aid of a trusted male friend (an uncle, an older brother. Get him to level with you on any unfeminine habits you may have developed. Old habits become old friends and it's hard to discard them.

Ok, this step could be interesting as I am a girl who has always gotten along better with men.  I don't think anyone one would confuse me with a man as I prefer dresses to pants and have a voice that has sometimes been likened to Mini Mouse.  Then, on the other hand, I have won more then a couple burping contests (in my early 20's..I have since retired), drank more men under the table then most and i am actually known for telling more then a couple poor jerks that approached me the wrong way that I don't date men with smaller balls then mine. All of which are, I am told, decidedly unfeminine traits.  Mae West and I probably have more in common then most, if you know what I mean, and I have always cherished my bawdy sense of humor which is also considered "unfeminine".  I have never wanted to be a princess. I am not looking for a man to take care of me. Not so keen on the idea of marriage when it pertains to me. I also am very competitive and like to win at almost anything. All this before I have even spoken to a men about the subject. So already it appears I am working a deficit in this so called femininity department.

Step two has double returns. By listening to men you learn what qualities every Adam is looking for in his Eve (another relationship that turned out so well), and this should be used as a guide to help you become a more appealing female. Incidentally, while you are gathering this important data you are already making a great impression because all men loved to be listened to! See how this works?

The last statement rings true but then I find almost everyone of any sex or age enjoys being listened to.

This ends the first installment of Chapter One so I will leave you with this quote from Arlene

"Blondes may have more fun but redheads never have regrets"

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